The Ramblings of a Loner in a Group

https://markmanson.net/toxic-relationship-habits

"When you read an article like this, and you go down the list, and you find yourself mentally counting off, “Yup, does that, does that, does that, does that…”

…There might be a problem.

And I’m going to note here that there is a virtual item number zero on this list, which is “keeping score” in the first place. You don’t have to have both partners doing it for it to be toxic. If EITHER partner is keeping score, that is toxic."



Having thought about the person's comment overnight.... there is a DIFFERENCE between keeping score and "We said that I would get a job and you would take care of the kids but you are playing video games instead of caring for the kids." I'm not trying to rationalize how keeping score is healthy but pointing out that keeping score is DIFFERENT from keeping people accountable for following through on mutual decisions and/or unilateral decisions. "Hey, I'm going to lift weights every morning while I wait for my coffee to be made." "God, would you stop bugging me about the weights on the counter that are dusty because I haven't been lifting them!"

treehaus: Rain passed away yesterday [Wednesday evening, June 15, 2016]
treehaus: donations - local SPCA would probably thrill him
treehaus: It was very sudden
boogieshoes: like a heart attack?
treehaus: Yes
treehaus: He was with our parents in Tucson
treehaus: They left a restaurant and he was in front with Dad a short distance behind. He told dad to watch the step and got in the car. By the time Dad caught up and got in the car, Rain was gone

You have got to read http://stubhillnews.com/2015/10/21/michael-j-fox-arrested/ :-D 4th paragraph down.

Happy Birthday bfly!

http://www.newsweek.com/2014/10/03/three-letter-word-driving-gender-revolution-272654.html?piano_d=1 Swedes are using hen in place of him and her.

What bothers me is how does one tell the Bad Actors from the Simply Tired And Therefore Careless?

(About the Internet and Privacy and Filter bubbles)
La, la, la, la I'm not listening to me.

It is not my right to change your worldview.
It is not my responsbility to point out your logical fallacy.
You are happy as you are.
It is not my right to change that.

I will use my fingers to shut my lips.
It is not my right to change your held beliefs.

"To Make Up for the Times I've Been Cheated On" Sometimes you come to understand that will never ever happen. And you let it go and let go of the feelings that made the cheaters matter. I'm not even sure the cheating matters or if it is the feeling of "how could I be so stupid as to let this person matter enough to me that their actions could affect me?"